Dr. Johnben Loy

USA-Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (MN license no: 2053)
Founding President – Malaysian Marriage & Family Therapy Association
Clinical Fellow and Approved Supervisor – American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)

PhD, Family Social Science (specialization in Marriage & Family Therapy) – University of Minnesota.
MTS (specialization in Counseling) – Tyndale Seminary, Toronto.
MBA – Judge School of Business, University of Cambridge, England.



I have worked with clients in Canada, United States, Japan, Singapore, and Malaysia since 2000, in medical, university, corporate, non-profit, and private practice settings. I see my role as one where I help clients move towards relational and emotional well being, where they can function with honest and healthy self-determination.

Although I am able to work with a wide variety of people, I tend to focus on working with senior corporate executives, business-owners, professionals (medical, legal, financial), and organisational leaders as well as their family members. I specialise in issues related to marital infidelity, cross-cultural issues, expat family challenges, family conflict (especially in family businesses), stress & anger management, performance anxieties, childhood abuse, addictions, trauma, and sexual compulsivity. I also specialise in helping men in their 40s-50s work through challenges related to mid-life transitions.

Clinically, I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (Minnesota license #2053) and Approved Supervisor of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (link). I adhere to the ethical standards of the Minnesota Board of MFT as well as the American Association of MFT to ensure that you will receive the best care possible. In addition to my qualifications in marriage and family therapy, I have received accredited training in some of the best research-supported treatments, namely: EFCT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy), PREP (Preventative and Relationship Enhancement Program), and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). In addition, I have received training in the diagnosis and treatment of sexual addiction under Dr. Mark Laaser, expert and author on sex addiction. To keep my clinical knowledge up-to-date, I partake in continuing education as required by my American credentialing bodies.

At Rekindle, all my clients begin with a comprehensive 100-minute intake assessment, after which I will give some feedback to them and we ascertain the goals for therapy. I work collaboratively with my clients to help them build up their capacity towards healing and growth. I listen carefully to what is going on for them, and I help them to uncover areas that might be causing blockages to insight. Often, my clients receive deep understanding about themselves through our work by looking at the patterns or habits that have been developed since childhood. For couples and families, I help them towards greater understanding and acceptance of each other through deep listening, both to themselves and to each other. Partners and members shift in expectations and perceptions of each other from angry/blaming to loving/accepting by going deep into self- and relationship- understanding.

My systemic work with families have also been applied to companies and organisations to help teams work through conflict management issues. Institutional clients can also request to speak with me to find out the kinds of services I can provide in helping with topics such as: stress, employee engagement, critical incident stress management, team conflict management, executive life coaching. (Please note that my corporate services are offered separately and not through Rekindle Sdn. Bhd.)

In 2018, I received credentialing as a Certified Forum Facilitator for the YPO (Young Presidents’ Organization), and I will be providing training and consultation to YPO members around the Asia Pacific Region including India. Senior executives and their team members can contact my office to enquire more about the executive life coaching as well as family business advising services that I provide. (Again, offered separately, not through Rekindle Sdn. Bhd.).

I have two undergraduate degrees (BFA in Music, York University; BA in Psychology, McGill University), two master’s degrees (MBA, Cambridge University; MTS in Counselling, Tyndale Seminary), and a PhD in Family Social Science, specialising in MFT. For my PhD dissertation, I constructed a theory of Malaysian Chinese family-owned businesses, and it can be accessed here. I have managed small businesses, worked in medium private and large public-listed corporations, served in ministry positions, and lectured in universities at the undergraduate and graduate levels teaching family business management as well as marriage and family therapy.

I am of Malaysian Chinese origin and my wife is a caucasian Westerner. We have two bi-cultural teenage children who are learning what it means to be Third Culture Kids.I have travelled to more than 40 countries around the world, and I am very comfortable working with people from different cultural backgrounds. I am able to converse in intermediate level Mandarin and Hokkien (Penang), and to a lesser extent, basic level Bahasa Malaysia and French, but I currently only conduct therapy in English.

My community work includes serving as the Founding President of the Malaysian Marriage and Family Therapy Association (MyMFT), a non-profit association which aims to promote the field of MFT in Malaysia; and from 2010 until 2017, I held a regularly monthly radio show on BFM radio where I covered topics related to family and mental health (search “Johnben Loy”). See LinkedIn for my updated vita.


I currently only conduct therapy in English. For those who wish to see a good Chinese/Dutch /German/Malay speaking therapist, please refer to our clinician’s page in the link below.

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